Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Lessons from the Movie: "The King's Speech"

Just before the 2011 Oscars event, I went to see one of the movies nominated for Best Picture. I had heard through word of mouth that “The King’s Speech” was a good film and so, on a whim, a friend and I went to see it. I was hoping for a good show and I must say I was not disappointed. It is one of those rare films that lives up to it's reputation. The film dominated the Oscars being nominated for twelve Academy Awards, winning four, including Best Picture, Best Director (Tom Hooper), Best Original Screenplay (David Seidler), and Best Actor in a Leading Role (Colin Firth).
Firth plays Prince Albert the Duke of York, and later (after ascending to the throne) King George VI. The film is set in England in the late 1920’s and 30’s leading up to the impending British conflict with Nazi Germany and Adolph Hitler. The basic characters and plot elements are true although many of the details of the film are altered for dramatic effect.
To summarize the plot, as Prince Albert, the Duke realizes that public speaking and radio broadcasts are emerging as an important responsibility for the monarchy. This is a problem since he possesses a horrendous "peach inspediment". So he reluctantly employs the help of an unconventional speech therapist named Lionel Logue from Australia (played by Geoffrey Rush, known by many for his portrayal of Captain Barbossa in the “Pirates of the Caribbean” films).
A friendship between the two men develops, reminding me of the relationship that Matt Damon and Robin Williams portrayed in the 1997 film “Good Will Hunting”. Although Logue is not a psychiatrist as Williams was in GWH, he gives off the same kind of unorthodox vibe. And although Prince Albert’s world is a universe apart from Matt Damon’s Will Hunting, they are both damaged men in need of repair.
After his father’s death, and his brother’s abdication of his right to the throne, the weight of the entire Monarchy is suddenly thrust on Albert’s shoulders. He is shortly thereafter crowned King George VI of England. It is at this point where the tension in the film builds and the King’s relationship with his friend and therapist is tested. In the end, the friendship prevails and the King must prepare for a national speech to unite and inspire the British people as war with Germany becomes a foregone conclusion.
What I loved about the film was the story of how a stammering British monarch overcame his fear and insecurity to help his nation rise up to meet the challenge of confronting the threat of war. History tells us that England at that time was weak. Prime Minister Chamberlain had routinely conceded to Germany’s demands in order to avoid getting involved in the war. But now when the conflict was unavoidable, the nation needed a strong leader to rally them together. 
Unfortunately, the Prime Minister was the essence of weakness, and the other British symbol of power--the Monarchy--was recovering from controversy and presently in the hands of an unproven stammering potentate. Winston Churchill was in the wings, but the nation needed someone at that moment to help them find their “voice”--to realize who they were and what they stood for in a time of crisis.
Throughout the movie, Firth’s character displayed a remarkable perseverance in overcoming his speech problems. It was evident that Logue believed in him and consistently spurred him to triumph over his impediment. This was important because life growing up in the royal family was so lonely for Albert that when told by Logue “That’s what friends are for”, the King replied, “I wouldn’t know.”  As sad and lonely as growing up a royal was, the King desperately needed a confidant that he could trust--someone who would challenge him, strengthen him, and lead him on a path of self-improvement.
The movie expertly portrayed a growing friendship between the two men. It reminded me of my own life and those who have stood by me in facing my challenges. How I have appreciated their support, prayers and encouragement. And in light of that, it has forced me to ask: Who am I taking under my wing and helping to find their “voice”? 
Every one of us has issues to confront and obstacles to overcome. It is almost impossible to face the challenges of life alone. We need others who will believe in us, give us the benefit of the doubt, and not give up on us. And each of us needs to look for others in need of support and encouragement. We all need to find our “voice” and assist others in doing the same.


J.T. Bean
Twitter: @58beans
YouTube Channel: JTBeanScenes

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Lessons From a Lifelong Learner

So many people are obsessed with self-improvement these days. Overall, I think that's a good thing. I'd be worried if it were the other way around. You certainly wouldn't want to live in a society that was obsessed with self-diminishment. I too am working to improve myself daily. That's why in my most exceptional moments, I like to define myself as a "lifelong learner." What does that look like? Well, when you have the attitude that your schooling didn't stop when you stopped going to school, then you are on a path to growing and improving your life every day. The fact is, most of the important lessons in life are not learned in school at all. You learn you most important lessons in the context of your family, your job, the athletic field, or while enjoying your favorite activities in life. You also learn in the midst of conflict, crisis, disappointment and failure.

Everyday is a classroom when you commit to being a "lifelong learner." There's always a lesson to learn, a test to pass, a new discovery, a grade you've earned, and a next level to which you graduate. As I reflect on this, I am challenged by the barriers and self-designed roadblocks that keep me from growing. There are three things that I think keep us from moving forward and taking the next steps in life. They are:
1.  Pride... Believe it or not, many people stay stuck where they are in life because they don't think they need to improve. When you think you know it all, that's pride. No one ever "arrives" at perfection in life. There is always room for improvement. So if you think you don't need a refresher course, think again. Life has a way of dragging you back to the same situations that you've failed to learn in the past (kind of like the movie "Groundhog Day") until you get it right!
2.  Doubt... Another big barrier to personal improvement is self-doubt. We doubt that we can do it. Whether it's losing weight, becoming a parent, or starting a new job, we often sabotage our efforts with fearful thoughts of inadequacy. When faced with setbacks, a cynic believes that action in response to their doubts is useless because nothing is ever going to change. That is an “I give up” attitude and it is not going to lead to solutions.
3.  Time... Very often, people want to change, they want to find solutions, but they're too busy to make it happen. And if anyone wants to take on a new challenge, there is always a time commitment that must be made. No one on earth has more time than anybody else. It's an equal-opportunity commodity that must be managed in order to be maximized. Something always needs to be sacrificed in order to make time for self-improving efforts.
There are other barriers to growth and improvement that my list may have sparked in your mind. Whatever it is, my encouragement is to search for ways through these barriers. It takes a change of mind, a mental toughness, and a steadfast devotion to achieving your goals that will get you to the next level of growth. Until then...
I gotta grow!
J.T. Bean
Twitter: @58beans
YouTube Channel: JTBeanScenes


Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Positive People Prevail

It’s no surprise that optimism breeds success. Optimism is also known as a “glass half full” mentality. This mentality is understood best through the story of identical twin boys. One was always happy and upbeat. The other was constantly negative and complaining. The contrast between the boys was so pronounced that the parents decided to seek help from a psychologist to see how to best deal with this imbalance between them.
The counselor learned that they had a birthday in just a few weeks and suggested that the parents buy gifts that would counteract the tendencies in their personalities. So for the pessimist, the parents were instructed to purchase top-quality expensive gifts that most children only dream of getting. And to the optimist, the counselor suggested they buy him a huge pile of horse manure.
The parents thought this was an intriguing idea and certainly worth a try. When the boys’ birthday finally came, the twins were separated and given their special gifts in rooms across the hall from each other. 
In the first room, the negative boy right on cue began to complain. As he opened up his new laptop, he moaned: “I wonder how long it will be before this thing crashes.” And when he opened up his new iPod, and whined: "I don't like this color.” And of his remote control monster truck: “My friend Stevie got a bigger car than this.” 
Disappointed, but not surprised, the parents turned their attention to their happy little twin. Surely he must be raising a stink about his filthy heap of dung disguised as a birthday gift.
Tiptoeing across the hall the parents peeked in and saw their little optimist gleefully throwing the manure up in the air. They were amazed to find that he was smiling and laughing, almost singing: "You can't fool me! With this much manure, there's gotta be a pony under here!"
Although some people seem to be genetically predisposed to certain attitudes, the point is, life’s circumstances can always be twisted one way or the other. You can choose to look at life as empty of enjoyment or full of fun. Your attitude is ultimately a choice that you make. And which person (the optimist or pessimist) will be more likely to succeed? The answer is crystal clear. When life becomes difficult, the pessimist grumbles and gives up, while the optimist presses on and prevails!

J.T. Bean
Twitter: @58beans
YouTube Channel: JTBeanScenes